Opinion

Dear Goldy:

I’ve spoken with my best friend and mother about this, and they both say it’s a bad idea. I’m turning to you because there is something in me that needs to do this, no matter what the outcome.

Dear Goldy:

I broke my engagement a few weeks ago. All I’ll say (and that’s the issue) is that I realized she wasn’t the girl for me. And I truly believe it wasn’t bashert. It was such a relief once I broke things off. Before that, I was smiling and saying all the right things because that was what was expected of me. I feel so much better now.

Dear Goldy:

I’m kind of new to the dating scene. I’ve been out with three guys so far. I’m easing myself into things. I’m 20 years old and really want to focus on my education and graduating college now, because it will only get harder balancing life and school as the years go by. So, I date guys that I really feel may be right for me. I don’t go out with everyone I’m redt to.

Dear Goldy:

I am dating a “fellow” whom I have wanted to date for a year. He was always busy, but now we’re both available. In short, he checks all my boxes, and his family is wonderful. They are known throughout the community as giving and welcoming. Sounds great, right? The times that we have gone out have been good, but sometimes aren’t as good as other times.

Dear Goldy:

I’m dating “Avi.” He’s very busy at work. He works all the time. Calls come in at all hours. He must take the calls. Even if we’re together. He’s said that he told his assistant not to bother him unless it was an “emergency.” So, if the assistant calls, he picks up. I’m understanding about this. I know it comes with the territory – I want someone in the “business world” and today, nothing is a 9-to-5 job anymore. But Avi doesn’t have a job. He has a position, a career, a bright future.

This happens, without fail, every June and July, since I began the “Dating Today” column. It comes in all forms: emails, face-to-face with someone on Main Street, etc. It’s the question or comment about the girls who came home from seminary during the previous few weeks/months. Often, they are referred to as “the/a new crop” of eligible girls, or something similar. I just love it when someone is comparing human beings to corn or wheat, or even livestock. [Sigh] Technically, it’s not too far from the truth, I hate to admit.