Dating Today

Dear Goldy:

This can actually be a chapter if you wrote a sequel to The Best of My Worst. This happened to my son a couple of weeks back. My son is in his early 30s and has dated for a long time and never had a date quite like the one I will write about. My question is: Is this how millennials behave? I can’t believe an adult who was seemingly raised in a “normal” family could be this clueless, unaware, immature about life and social interactions.

 I once (or twice) wrote about a fellow I dated one time. Sure, on paper he was great, but in person he was far from great. You know how people tell cute stories of themselves or family members on dates as an ice breaker or the start of a getting to know you conversation? His idea of a “cutesy” story was telling me how he regularly screams at his grandmother who was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and living in his family.

Dear Goldy:

I don’t know why, but the last few guys I went out with were more like boys than men. On paper, they all look good. Then we go out and it could go either way: poor table and eating manners but great conversationalist, or vice versa. But once we get to the part of the conversation where we ask each other, “What do you like to do?” or what hobbies you have, their answers are unattractive to me, even childish.

I wrote an article similar to this one around the same time last year. Why? Is it because I’m running out of topics? Gosh no! It’s because of what happens this time of year – the time where there is a three-week break between day camp and the start of school.

Dear Goldy:

My chasan and I are writing this together. We are unofficially engaged and want to become official, but there is one thing that is bothering him, and he thinks it will affect me and what people will say about me and to me.

Dear Goldy:

I don’t think you can help me with what I’m about to write. So maybe I’m venting here. Whatever it is, I appreciate anything you have to offer.