Dating Today

I have said from the very beginning that real married life is nothing like dating life. You don’t go out to expensive dinners or cute cafes once or twice a week. There are no long walks in the park or maybe a carriage ride in Central Park, no going miniature golfing, no going to axe-throwing locations (it’s a thing now). Now you have work, errands, and responsibilities.

Below are letters from people around the same age living the single life. But both have a very different outlook. Which letter can you and would you want to relate to?

Dear Goldy:

I’m writing to you because my mother insisted that I do so. I suggested that she could send you the email about the guy I recently went out with, but she felt it would be better coming from me. So here goes… It’s not anything crazy or wild, though.

I published this letter a few years ago. It broke my heart and I’m sure the hearts of readers, as well. I never forgot about this woman because of what had happened to her, the cruelty and premeditation of it. What happened to her happened one Pesach. I’m republishing it now (sort of on its anniversary.)

There’s a game that “the kids” play. It’s called “Two Truths and a Lie.” As the name suggests, when you are among a group of friends, you divulge two truths about yourself and one lie. Then they’re supposed to choose which one is the lie. It’s a game that is supposed to shock some friends – especially if one of your truths is something they never knew or would never guess about you.

I want to begin this article by writing that I am not an expert in this (or many) fields. The purpose of this column is to help those who are dating with questions about what may have come up while on a date or to let them vent. I answer them as would a friend. I’m not a rebbetzin. I’m not a very learned person. I am someone who has gone through the wringer while dating and may be able to share some insights and use some examples of what I have experienced to help others in need of guidance, an opinion of a non-involved third party with their dating questions. It is important for me to write this now and for all of you to read.