Dating Today

Dear Goldy:

I’m not sure what to do. Was I dating him or not? I think I was.

As I always say/write: I provide my opinion to those who ask it. Take it or leave it. Not everyone has to agree with me, and believe me, many don’t. This is the time of year where I choose a letter from a non-fan, or should I say, a fan with criticism. Never let it be said that I only publish cute, sweet letters that have happy endings.

I interrupted my usual schedule of articles for the Molly and Bluey articles. I’m getting back on track now. This email was sent to me weeks ago, before Thanksgiving. My wish was to have it published right before Thanksgiving, but that didn’t happen. This email may seem a little late, but it’s really on time, b’shaah tovah.

Every year, new words get added to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary. The new words are usually words that have become popular in the past year and people find themselves saying them quite a bit. These words have now become part of our everyday vernacular. I’ll provide some examples of words slash phrases that were hardly ever spoken waaaaaaay back in the ’80s, or of they were used, they certainly didn’t have the same meanings as they do today. Some new words in our new world are bullying, transparency, my truth, my narrative, triggering, emotional support animal, and safe place.

All I can say is, “Wow.” I didn’t expect all the emails I received from the article published a few weeks ago. I wrote about how everyone should have a “safe place” or “support item,” when life and dating get to be too much for someone. What do they do to overcome the feeling until it passes? It seemed to hit a spot with many of you. As soon as Motza’ei Shabbos, my Inbox had over a dozen new messages from readers. This tells me that I was right: Everyone gets nervous and needs something to center and relax them until they feel in control of the situation.

Dear Goldy:

I am engaged to a great girl who is from a large family. The sisters seem so happy to have me marrying into the family. There is only one sister who is married, and her husband seems to be okay.