Dating Today

Dear Goldy:

I’d like to rant, and you’ve written that your column allows for it.

There are two ways the situation can go when one twin gets engaged.

Dear Goldy:

Let me tell y’all a true story. It happened about four years ago.

Dear Goldy:

 Bli ayin ha’ra, I have over a dozen grandchildren (and two great-grandchildren). I am concerned about two of my grandchildren who are in their upper 20s and lower 30s who are still single. They aren’t going the normal route of meeting with shadchanim or going to singles events. I’m afraid they have adopted the secular way of viewing marriage: Live life first before settling down. With my grandson, he’s more excited to tell me about a sport he’s involved in than a girl he may be involved with, and his cousin is no better. She’s always flying off somewhere, traveling. What fun is it to travel with a friend when you can travel with your spouse?

I try to keep this column light. There’s enough that we’re all dealing with in the world, and it’s nice to have a distraction for a few minutes. But there are times I need to get serious and address specific topics. I still want people to read my column as an escape from their worries, but this letter caught my eye and so I published it. It deals with Israel and the war, as well as dating.

My family spent the first days of Sukkos at a hotel. We had a very nice time. During our two-day stay, I became “fast friends” with the woman sitting at the table near ours, who also happened to be rooming on the same floor as us. She and I had nothing in common, except that we were married and had children. But we found, or rather she found, what to speak about. And her topic of choice was shidduchim. I can’t blame her; she has two sons in the parshah. And no, I did not tell her I wrote a book or currently write a weekly dating column.