Dear Goldy:

I am writing this for my brother. I love him, but... I am just shaking my head in my hands. He has done some stupid things and sometimes these stupid things happen on a date. (I figure this out as he tells me about dates he has been on and not understanding “what went wrong.”)

I interrupted my usual schedule of articles for the Molly and Bluey articles. I’m getting back on track now. This email was sent to me weeks ago, before Thanksgiving. My wish was to have it published right before Thanksgiving, but that didn’t happen. This email may seem a little late, but it’s really on time, b’shaah tovah.

All I can say is, “Wow.” I didn’t expect all the emails I received from the article published a few weeks ago. I wrote about how everyone should have a “safe place” or “support item,” when life and dating get to be too much for someone. What do they do to overcome the feeling until it passes? It seemed to hit a spot with many of you. As soon as Motza’ei Shabbos, my Inbox had over a dozen new messages from readers. This tells me that I was right: Everyone gets nervous and needs something to center and relax them until they feel in control of the situation.