In and out. In and out. My son’s army unit has endured four rounds in Gaza. The IDF has shown its appreciation for the reservists who serve with such dedication by offering gifts, ceremonies, and various benefits. The soldiers are rightfully lauded for their contributions. However, behind many reservists stands a wife who sacrifices just as much – holding the family together during long nights of worry and uncertainty. These women play the role of both mother and father, anchoring the Homefront so their husbands can defend the nation.
Recognizing this vital role, many initiatives in Israel aim to support not only the soldiers but also their families – the often-overlooked “supporters.” One such initiative is Achayot MiBarzel (Iron Sisters), a grassroots effort by chareidi women to help other wives and families during these difficult times. Within just 30 hours of launching, 1,500 women signed up to volunteer.
The program allows volunteers to commit to specific weekly tasks, such as cooking, cleaning, babysitting, or even offering a listening ear over the phone. Area managers oversee the operations to ensure efficiency and prevent burnout. When families require more specialized assistance – whether psychological or legal – Achayot MiBarzel connects them to the appropriate resources.
The organization also fosters resilience and unity through uplifting events. At one concert, renowned Israeli singer Ishay Ribo performed the song Eishes Chayil in honor of the wives. A particularly moving moment came when a soldier serving on the front lines appeared in a video to thank his wife, who was in the audience.
Another impactful organization is Is-Resilient, the Israel Resilience Network, established after the events of October 7. Is-Resilient addresses the complex needs of Israeli society, offering care packages and support meetings for soldiers’ wives to boost morale and strengthen national resilience. The organization has high-level access to decision-makers in the IDF through connections of the founders, as well as Advisory Board Member Former Minister Ayelet Shaked. These relationships help the organization identify real needs of the IDF and allow them to respond in real-time to the army’s and civilians’ evolving needs. Alongside logistical support, such as providing IDF-standard equipment, Is-Resilient also plans innovative programs like pairing evacuated Israeli communities with global sponsors, and launching a sports rehabilitation program to train injured soldiers and civilians for Paralympic sports.
One particularly heartwarming initiative came from the wife of the company commander in my son’s unit. She proposed a getaway to honor the wives of reservists, recognizing the critical role they play in their husbands’ ability to serve. With funding from international donors and Is-Resilient, a pilot program was organized: a luxurious overnight retreat at the Daniel Herzliya Hotel on Israel’s Mediterranean coast.
The hotel, eager to support the soldiers and their families, offered its services at half the usual rate. The purpose of the retreat was twofold: to provide relaxation and pampering while creating space for couples to process the emotional toll of their experiences. The organizers left no detail overlooked.
When my son and daughter-in-law arrived, they were greeted with a welcoming atmosphere and thoughtful gifts in their room: wine, chocolate, luxurious creams, and games adorned with the company logo. The room overlooked the sparkling Mediterranean Sea, offering a sense of calm and escape. Since it was Thursday, attendees were also gifted Shabbos treats, including challah, babka, and a nut platter – which my family later enjoyed over the weekend.
The morning began with indulgent stands offering fresh shakes, Belgian waffles, pastries, and drinks. Spa treatments awaited those who wanted to unwind further. Once they were relaxed, the emotional component of the retreat began.
The company and brigade commanders addressed the group, acknowledging the incredible achievements of the unit while preparing them for the reality that their work was not yet done: They would likely be called back to the field. A Mental Health Officer then introduced workshops designed to help couples process their experiences.
In the first workshop, men and women met separately. The women’s groups were further divided based on the number of children in each family, allowing them to connect with others in similar situations. Later, couples joined together for a second workshop to reflect and reconnect. The day concluded with a lively party, featuring live music, leaving attendees feeling uplifted and recharged.
This pilot program was designed to be both meaningful and empowering – and it exceeded expectations. Seeing its success, I couldn’t help but think of a new idea for another pilot program: a pampering and emotional getaway for mothers of soldiers. My bags are already packed!
Please continue to daven for the recovery of the wounded, the release of the remaining hostages, and the success and safe return of all the chayalim and security personnel.
Suzie Steinberg, (nee Schapiro), CSW, is a native of Kew Gardens Hills and resident of Ramat Beit Shemesh who publishes articles regularly in various newspapers and magazines about life in general, and about life in Israel in particular. Her recently published children’s book titled Hashem is Always With Me can be purchased in local Judaica stores as well as online. Suzie can be reached at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. and would love to hear from you.
