A father set out one day to teach his young daughter a powerful lesson. When she woke up in the morning, he took her in front of a mirror and asked her, “What do you see?”
She smiled and answered, “I see myself!”
He then took her to the window, and asked her, “What do you see now?”
“I see houses, and trees, and grass, and a whole world outside,” she said, this time with a sense of wonder and joy in her voice.
That night, before tucking his daughter into bed, the father again brought her to the mirror.
“What do you see?”
“I still see myself,” she answered, a bit confused as to why they were doing this again.
He then took her back to the window. “What do you see now?” he asked.
“I see…me?” she answered, suddenly very confused. “Did the window turn into a mirror?”
“Be patient, stay focused, and keep on staring at the window. What do you see?”
After a long, silent moment, her eyes lit up. “ I finally see it! I see houses and trees and the world outside!”
Her father smiled and explained to his daughter:
“Sometimes, we get so caught up in our own lives that we think everything in life revolves around us; instead of seeing the true nature of things, we see everything as a mirror of ourselves. As a result, we project our views onto everything we see and everything we hear. Instead, we each need to learn how to peer past the surface, past ourselves, and see the endless beauty, wisdom, and depth that lies beneath that surface. When we do so, we turn the mirror into a window, revealing a world of depth behind it.
The Journey to Sukkos
The journey from Rosh Chodesh Elul through Yom Kippur is a 40-day experience of self-awareness, t’shuvah, and spiritual growth, whereby we come closer than ever to Hashem and our true selves. This process of closeness culminates in the holiday of Sukkos, which represents the ultimate connection between Hashem and the Jewish People. The center of this connection is the sukkah, which represents the marriage canopy as klal Yisrael marries Hashem. As we approach this time of closeness, let us delve into the meaning of the sukkah and the lessons it holds for us.
Chazal enigmatically compare the s’chach of the sukkah to the ideal form of beauty. What does this mean?
The spiritual concept of beauty, and its relevance to marriage, is central to the connection we aim to develop through the process of Sukkos. In order to understand this connection, let us delve into the spiritual concept of beauty. To do so, we must understand the unique beauty of Sarah Imeinu.
Sarah Imeinu was the most beautiful woman in the world. We know Sarah was physically beautiful, that her beauty was not just of an ethereal, spiritual nature. When Sarah and Avraham descended to Mitzrayim, the Mitzrim, and even Pharaoh himself, desired her (B’reishis 12:14-15. See Rashi). The Egyptians were steeped in immorality, interested only in beauty that ran skin-deep. However, we know that Sarah Imeinu was immensely spiritual, as well – that she reached the loftiest of spiritual levels (See Rashi, B’reishis 23:1).
At the end of Parshas Noach, Rashi (B’reishis 11:29) explains that one of Sarah’s other names was Yiskah. A name always reflects essence, so we must ponder the meaning of this name and what it reveals about Sarah Imeinu. “Yiskah” means transparent, and Sarah’s true beauty lay in her transparency. Her inner beauty completely permeated and was loyally reflected through her physical body. Genuine beauty requires the midah (character trait) of transparency, where the physical body reflects the inner and spiritual beauty, something infinitely greater than any external beauty. True beauty is oneness, where the physical and spiritual melt into a oneness, where the physical doesn’t hide the inner self, but reveals it!
It is therefore fitting that the shoresh (root) of the word “yiskah” is also the shoresh of the word “s’chach,” the roof of the sukkah. According to halachah (Jewish law), the s’chach is the most important part of the sukkah, which is why “s’chach” is the shoresh of “sukkah” as well. What, then, is the connection between transparency and s’chach? The answer lies in one of the deepest themes of Sukkos. Sukkos is about seeing past the illusion of independent self-security, recognizing that Hashem is our true source of protection. This is why we leave our sturdy homes and enter a diras arai, a temporary dwelling place. We show that our faith and trust lie in Hashem, not our “safe” homes. While, on the surface, our security and safety seem to come only from our own efforts and hishtadlus, when we look past the surface, we recognize that everything comes from Hashem. This is why the s’chach is the main part of the sukkah – it trains us to see past the surface. The s’chach must be transparent, allowing you to see the stars at night. It must also be loose enough to allow some sunlight and rain to enter the sukkah. Only when we have a transparent surface can we truly see what lies behind it.
The Two Stages
Amongst the Yamim Nora’im (High Holidays), Sukkos is an anomaly. Rosh HaShanah and Yom Kippur are overtly spiritual and transcendent days, with intense rounds of prayer and spiritual elevation. Sukkos, on the other hand, is grounded in the physical. The centerpiece of Sukkos is a physical object – the lulav we shake – and much emphasis is put on going through our physical routines in a physical hut. It is the Z’man Simchaseinu, a time of physical joy and festivities, highlighted by the celebrations of the Simchas Beis HaSho’eivah. How is this the ultimate culmination of the spiritual growth we have worked towards throughout the last month and a half? The answer to this question is the secret behind the power of Sukkos, as well as a fundamental principle in Jewish ideology.
While the physical can be dangerous if misused, the ideal is not to transcend the physical, but rather to use the physical, in order to reflect something higher. Think, how many mitzvos are commandments of the mind? Almost none. You can count them on your hand: Believe in Hashem, love Hashem, be in awe of Hashem, don’t be jealous, and just a few more. The overwhelming majority of mitzvos are physical actions that connect you to the spiritual source, Hashem! The act is physical, while the spirituality and mindfulness are contained within that physical act. We eat matzah, shake a lulav, blow shofar, and wear t’filin: all actions, all physical. We don’t believe in transcending the physical; we believe in using the physical to connect to the transcendent.
Sukkos embodies this lesson in embracing the physical. The purpose of this physical world is for us to use everything it has to offer for a spiritual purpose. This requires us to immerse ourselves in the physical world, but for this immersion to be proper, we must maintain control and focus while using the physical. In other words, our root must be transcendent, grounded firmly in the spiritual, and then atop that foundation we can descend into the physical and use it in a transcendent way. This is the key behind the process we undertake through the Yamim Nora’im.
We first experience Elul, then Rosh HaShanah, and then Yom Kippur, a developmental process of raising ourselves higher and higher above the physical world and deeper and deeper into the spiritual world. It is only once we create this transcendent root that we then re-immerse ourselves into physical living, but this time on an entirely new scale. We must infuse the totality of our spiritual acquisition into our physical life, elevating our actions and intentions as we move this physical world towards its ultimate spiritual root. Sukkos is the ultimate expression of this ideal, as we infuse the entirety of our spiritual gains from Elul, Rosh HaShanah, and Yom Kippur into a physical life of connection with Hashem inside the sukkah. It is in that simple and mundane hut that we draw the connection between the transcendent spirituality we just experienced and the elevated physical existence we are about to throw ourselves into. This is how a Jew lives a life of spirituality.
Two Levels of Reality
This is the most powerful message of life. There are always two levels of reality: the surface level and the deeper, spiritual level. The surface is meant to reflect the spiritual, reveal it, emanate its truth and beauty. But often we struggle, we forget, we get caught up in the deception that the surface is all that there is. But even when we fail, even when we fall, there is always hope, there is always a path back to our true selves. This is the message of Sukkos; this is the message of life. To strive to see more, feel more, learn more, become more. May we all be inspired to not only see past the surface, but to then reveal that truth through the surface, to live holistic lives of truth, spiritual beauty, and true oneness.
Rabbi Shmuel Reichman is an author, educator, speaker, and coach who has lectured internationally on topics of Torah, psychology, and leadership. He is the founder and CEO of Self-Mastery Academy, the transformative online self-development course. Rabbi Reichman received Semikha from RIETS, a master’s degree in Jewish Education from Azrieli, and a master’s degree in Jewish Thought from Revel. He is currently pursuing a PhD at the University of Chicago and has also spent a year studying at Harvard as an Ivy Plus Exchange Scholar. To find more inspirational content from Rabbi Reichman, to contact him, or to learn more about Self-Mastery Academy, visit his website: www.ShmuelReichman.com.