There’s an oft-cited trope that therapists shouldn’t give advice. At least, it’s oft-cited in the world of therapists and their clients, especially serial clients. While there’s some degree of wisdom in this to be sure, it’s far too opaque a statement. What constitutes advice and what is considered giving it? Are there really no circumstances under which it might be a good idea to prod someone in a given direction?

Chanukah is the celebration of many miracles. The menorah and its candles symbolize these miracles and our desire and commitment to telling about them to the world. They also remind us to keep our faith in Hashem watching over Am Yisrael even in the most difficult times. Chanukah should not merely be the holiday of lights but of the enlightenment. Watching the lit-up menorah is a great time to contemplate Hashem’s marvels. It is a good time to sip and enjoy some good wine. Not only wines that we often purchase for Shabbos, but to check out new and different wines, as well. While contemplating the burning candles, it is an opportunity to take careful note of a wine’s aromatic profile, and appreciate its texture and flavors.