How did you decide whom to marry, where to live, or what career to choose? Was your mind churning with all kinds of thoughts and feelings about it? You know that a successful marriage depends on falling in love many times – always with the same person. But, hey, marriage is not just spiritual communion. It’s also remembering to take out the trash. Hint, hint.

You can’t put your finger on it, but something’s just not right. Can you hear your inner voice whispering now, or is it being polluted and drowned out by all that mental chatter? Our intuition and sixth sense are inside of us to protect us. Some say money is the sixth sense. It makes it possible to enjoy the other five. Not quite, sweet friends. Then again, you’re so lucky that some people can’t hear what you’re thinking.

We all have spiritual wisdom within us. It’s high time you honor yours. Did you ever just have a hunch about something? What informs most of your opinions about someone?

You just met him. You have a feeling about him but you can’t quite get a fix on it. She appears distant and uninterested when you speak to her. Perhaps you truly caught on to some of her thoughts or even intentions. Can you pick up others’ signals? No, do not follow that gut feeling blindly; but do not ignore it either. Balance it with evidence and your rational mind.

Logic is not always the answer. What if one day Google was deleted, and you couldn’t Google what happened to Google. Hmmm. After all, life is like Google. You just need to know what you’re searching for.

Pay attention to your bodily sensations. When you were about to make that decision, how did your body feel? Were you standing up straight, feeling relaxed, light or even enthusiastic about it? Or did you feel stiff, heavy, tight, and burdened? Still stressed out? Try switching from skinny jeans to yoga pants. Tell them all: There simply can’t be a crisis next week. Your schedule is full.

Let’s be honest. We humans major in rationalizing. Think about how often you edit or even resist information simply because it makes you uncomfortable. So what controls your thoughts or actions? Your brain, heart, or your gut feeling? All parts of our nervous system overlap, so how do we even know?

There may have been times that you did not tune in to your internal voice and lived to regret it. Believe in yourself. The answer is often within you. Trust your instincts. If you need to take a stand, by all means - take one.

Be mindful. Don’t let toxic and negative thoughts rent space in your head. Raise the rent and kick them out. Take a time out from all the “busy.” Doing will never be satisfying without being. Don’t have any idea what to do? Just relax, sweet friends. Wait for the answer. Get outside and breathe. Sip your tea or coffee and just watch the world go by. Hey, sometimes I go for hours without drinking coffee. It’s called sleep. Your intuition will speak. All you have to do is learn to listen.

Seeking external guidance may certainly help you clarify or simplify some decisions. But perhaps you need to trust your inner guidance system a bit more. No need for you to go get you some intuition. We all come equipped with it. Know this: Your inner wisdom will always be on your side.

Pay attention if your Higher Self occasionally tugs at your sleeve. Remember, please, that repressed feelings can develop into symptoms such as depression, anxiety, or even physical ailments. We need to heal the parts of ourselves that we would rather make believe didn’t even exist. Our wounds may make us feel defective or even unlovable. Self-acceptance is crucial for us to truly love or trust ourselves.

Do something outside of your comfort zone. Accept that promotion, socialize a bit more. Do the public speaking gig. What are the thoughts that accompany that decision? Fear of failure? If your mind keeps wandering back to the same thought, or you keep feeling pulled in a certain direction, please consider why. There may very well be a reason that thought keeps popping into your head.

You just thought about finally calling her. You do, and she picks up the phone, saying, “I was just going to call you.” Sure, you can chalk it up to your connection or coincidence, but do not underestimate how on point your intuition is at times. Speaking of phones, you know they came up with clear smart phones; apparently finding your phone wasn’t hard enough already. And can we all agree that one of the hardest things in life is trying to plug in your charger in the dark?

Please don’t be afraid to give weight to emotion and intuition. And don’t forget to dream. What would you like to see happen in your life right now? Don’t live on auto-pilot, sweet friends. Try new things. Stir it up a bit. Meet some new people. Try some different dishes. Did you know that the center of a doughnut is 100 percent fat-free? Me? I can make ice cream disappear. What’s your superpower?

Caroline is a licensed psychotherapist, crisis counselor, and writer with an office in Queens.  She works with individuals, couples, and families.  Appointments are available throughout the week and weekends.  She can be reached at 917-717-1775 or at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.  or at facebook.com/pages/Safe-Haven-Healing.